10 Things You Should Stop Expecting From Others

Often times we expect a lot from people around us, especially from our loved ones. Sometimes, even when we have little to offer.

Here are 10 Things You Should Stop Expecting From Others to help you minimize disappointments:

  1. *  Stop expecting them to live based on “Your Standards”.
  2. *  Stop expecting people to agree on everything you say. Opinions vary.
  3. *  Stop expecting them to be perfect. No one is.
  4. *  Stop expecting them to read your mind. Voice it.
  5. *  Stop expecting them to always understand you.
  6. *  Stop expecting them to always support you.
  7. *  Stop expecting them to always treat you the same way you treated them. There’s a saying: “Expecting people to be nice to you because you were nice to them is like expecting a lion not to eat you because you didn’t eat it.”
  8. *  Stop expecting them to be the same persons they were a year ago. People change.
  9. *  Stop expecting them to always be around. Circumstances change. People die.
  10. *  Stop expecting people to love you if you don’t offer your love in the first place. They might not love you back, show them love anyway.

RIP UNCLE

Nothing lasts forever, for these sins I seek repentance
Shots fired, another gone, I feel that man’s pain
Daddy sat me down and said: “that came with the game”
Shake my head, roll up the window, turnin’ up the music
So much anger in these write ups for these soldiers that we losin’

Richard Lenbang….

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Relationships Tips: What Good Wives Do

Family life is full of challenges and details that need to be kept it mind every single day.

Happy couple

It is no  secret that a woman, the emotional core of every relationship, is considered the domestic goddess, no matter how busy she might be.

In this article we have gathered the most precious “good wife” advice to help you become even a better partner for your man.

1. After years of marriage romance still matters

Can you recall the last time you two had the romantic evening? Even if you can, it is not  a competition but a gentle tip for both spouses to enjoy a good time. Be the one who initiates the romance. It could be anything: love notes, massages, candle-lit Dinner, movie night, sexual play or all put together. It will once again remind him of your genuine love and affection. Be sure, your man will appreciate it.

2. Be generous with “thank you”

According to numerous research, men identify appreciation as one of the most desired characteristics of a perfect wife. Actually we all need this. In some cases we all tend to notice only the mistakes which should be fixed. Still, there are always positive things we skip from time to time. Thus, remember to notice the things your husband does — for you, for the kids, for the house — and thank him. Two words can put a smile on his face and warm his heart, and this is the true miracle!

3. Desire for home and children

In the modern society the woman has increasingly achieved similar levels of education and career status as the man, with the latter perceiving the woman as an equal partner. However this point is not about how great you are with your career goals (which is of course very important), but about how you manage to separate these two aspects. Every man wants to have the warm place where he can return , the place he can call home.

4. Let him have the time for himself, or what could be called the “guy time”

It a good way for both of you to spend the time on your hobbies. Who said you should watch all the matches of the Premier League with him? Well, maybe it is high time to go shopping and let your man enjoy football with his friends? Encourage him to cultivate friendships with other men and he will appreciate the companionship. According to some studies, people who have friends live longer and healthier lives.

5. The Way to a man’s heart is through his stomach

You have probably heard this phrase millions of times. No matter how good you are at cooking, there is still space for improvement. Even if you work a lot, do not neglect this point. Find the way! For example, cook his favourite meals at weekends instead of going out. He will appreciate not only the taste but also your effort, as he would feel your love and attention.

6. Don’t try to change him

You are surely aware of the fact that thousands of small cracks can cause great damage. The same thing with relationship: constant picking on some trifles you don’t like (he leaves towels on the floor, he doesn’t wash his cup, etc.) and attempts to change him might eventually hurt both of you. Behavioral experts say you can’t change others, you can only change yourself and how you react.

Think about it and probably you will find the “golden middle” for your situation. Important: don’t forget to thank your man when he does it right. He washed the cup? – Say “thank you” even if you think it is a thing everyone should do without additional appreciation. Positive reinforcement beats nagging every time.

7. Do look good

Not surprisingly,  men love with their eyes. Physical attraction only will not make any marriage last, but love in combination with desire makes wonders. Stay beautiful, take care of your looks, clothes and style. He is the man of your life, so he deserves to see you in a beautiful dress (even though baggy jeans are more comfortable).

8. Prioritize him 

It matters a lot  for a man to “feel first”. Meet him when he comes back from work even if you need to stop doing something you were busy with. Also show your respect and attention with your words, your sights and questions about his day and hobbies.

9. Forgive

Easy to say but sometimes hard to do. When you learn to forgive, you learn the biblical wisdom. No one is perfect, so make forgiveness a habit, especially as far as little annoyances are concerned.

10. Talk TO your husband, not ABOUT him

Really not a good idea to discuss your personal problems behind your husband’s back before engaging him into communication. Complaining to someone outside will not solve the problem within. Friends and relatives might think they know what’s best for you, but their advice can play the wicked game on your marriage. Only you two know your relationship well, so don’t hesitate to raise the questions and find the answers together.

And always keep in mind: love is the secret ingredient to any marriage. Cherish it, be attentive to it, follow it and you will see the relationship filled with joy and harmony.

The famous Latin phrase reads: Amor Vincit Omnia, or Love conquers all. May your love be the main victory of you life.

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POWER OF A MAN

I was having this little Chit-Chat with a friend and I asked her, “Who really do The Ladies look beautiful for?” She said “Eh I look beautiful for myself, I don’t dress or make up To impress any man” fahear say! See white Lie!….

Now here was my reply To her

1990-1999: 9ja men wanted fair ladies, so ladies started bleaching

1999-2006: They wanted “IKEBE” or big a*s, so ladies started using butt pads to make it bigger!

2006-2014: Men want “LEPA” or slim girls so ladies are gyming, taking all sorts of herbs To lose weight!

Dear ladies, hasnt it occurred to You that men don’t really know what they want, yet you All are constantly changing your looks, punishing yourselves Just to please us?!…hahaha

Even at that women will not Just accept The fact that they actually look Good for The guys, consciously or unconsciously!… If today we The guys Decide To switch over To “OROBO GIRLS” (fat girls) All The girls will start eating fatty and oily food To make them Get Fat so they can measure up with The New trend… Now that’s The “POWER OF A MAN” Lmao… Girls make una Just accept am, You dress, make up and look Good Just To impress men!… Yes!
For the men : Send to 30 ladies if you agree
@datguyrapstar

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Top Real Prophecies of TB Joshua

TB Joshua is one of the most popular pastors in Nigeria. His famous prophecies often came true. We decided to tell you the most important of them happened in 2014. 

1 Prophecy On Abducted Girls

In April 2014 T.B Joshua predicted, that some of the abducted girls will be released. His words were:

“They have to be released. That is the voice of God. I saw a vision where some of these girls have escaped and they are trying to find their way from the forest to the town. In the midnight, some of these girls ran away. The ones that are still under their custody – God said He will release them. This is the voice of God. God has spoken – these children must be released. We can’t wait to see them. God has marked them that nothing should happen.”

The girls were found in South Borno, in the Gwoza-Bama axis. and were quickly carried off in about seven buses by security authorities on the end of April.

2 Disappearance of Malaysian Airlines Flight MH370

On Sunday, the 28th of July, 2013 TB Joshua warned Asia of an incident with a large aircraft, He mentioned that more than 200 persons would die. Joshua didn`t name the country, he just stated that it would be Asia.

READ ALSO: How Prophet T. B. Joshua’s Predictions Come True

Malaysia Airlines Flight 370 (MH370/MAS370) was a scheduled international passenger flight from Kuala Lumpur to Beijing. It disappeared on 8 March 2014 after losing contact with air traffic control less than an hour after takeoff. Malaysia Airlines (MAS) reported the flight missing. The aircraft, a Boeing 777-200ER, was carrying 12 Malaysian crew members and 227 passengers from 15 nations. So Joshua is supposed to be right.

READ ALSO: Another Plane Goes Missing

3 Abuja Bomb Prediction

On the 10th November 2013 TB Joshua predicted an explosion in Abuja:

“Listen to me, my people in Nigeria. Once again, take note of this: Our security should be vigilant. I am seeing a very big strike — explosion. Towards the end of this month, or the middle of next month they should take care of Abuja, capital”.

And the explosion had really happened. It was not in the 2013, but on 14 April 2014. A lot of people lost their lives in a massive bomb attack in Nigeria’s capital Abuja.

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Six Things You Should Never Say To Your Ex

1. I Miss You.
This article focuses on weaknesses, we are all human and we have feelings that make us seem weak but we only do certain things because of those feelings. If you’re done with someone, and you somehow couldn’t stop yourself from contacting them, never tell them you miss them. Telling them these three little words will make them more arrogant and make you seem desperate. Only you can make yourself strong. It’s not an unacceptable thing to hide your weaknesses from the people who truly care about you but you should always keep them hidden from people who aren’t in your life anymore.

2. I Love You.
You might still love them because let’s face it, you’ve been in a real relationship with them, but also try to remember why it ended in the first place when you both loved each other. Don’t ever tell your ex you still love them, even if you want nothing else but to be with them. Make yourself strong and help yourself get over them, don’t expect them to come back and don’t be nice with them or romantic with them, they’re your ex for a reason, don’t forget the reason and always remind yourself of the bad days you had with them. Weakness is something you need to keep far away from them, be as strong as possible in their case and you will never find yourself in that horrible position again.

3. Can We Hang Out?
Don’t ever ask your ex to hang out with you. Understand the fact that it’s over and you can’t be casual friends after all the things you’ve been through together. No matter how much you want to see them, don’t ask them to meet. It will hurt you when you can’t call them all the sweet nicknames, when you can’t hold their hand, when You can’t tell them your feelings. There is nothing good to expect from hanging out with your ex, avoid it at all costs. Keeping your distance is going to be one of the hardest things you’ve ever done, but once you’re over it you’ll thank yourself for doing it. Don’t be weak, I keep repeating this again and again but don’t be weak.

4. Am So Sorry.
You can say you’re sorry if you cheated on them or hurt them in a way you know you shouldn’t have. But if you’re the one who got hurt, cheated on, got lied to, don’t apologize for being the victim. I know you just want to start a conversation but don’t, it won’t go anywhere, they’ll just feel more powerful over you and you’ll be throwing yourself at them. The more you say sorry, the more you’re hurting yourself in the end.

5. I Hate You So Much.
This might seem like it opposes my previous point but it doesn’t. See, by telling your ex you hate them and How bad they’ve been, you’re only showing them that you still think about them and you still care, don’t let Yourself be in a position where they know you still think about them. Be as away from them as possible, Don’t show any sign of care.

6. We can Be Friends.
I’ve said this before I’ll say it again, YOU CAN’T BE FRIENDS WITH YOUR EX! It’s just one of those impossible Things that no matter how bad you want them you won’t be able to make it work. Someone who you’ve been Physical with, how can you imagine being friends with them? How can you imagine not calling them those sweet Names and holding their hand and hugging them and just talking like friends with them? It’s simply impossible. If you start being friends with your ex, a point will come where one of you will start crying. Just avoid it.

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